Are you getting a divorce but you still believe in love, soul mates, or at the very least, having a lasting, happy marriage? If your divorce hasn’t ruined your hopes of true love and happiness one day in the future, we have relationship advice for you.
It may seem counterintuitive to take relationship advice from divorce lawyers, but after dealing with countless divorces, we’ve learned a thing or two about what factors lead to divorce, and what can be done to prevent them from damaging a second marriage.
If you want to avoid making the common mistakes that contribute to divorce, read our relationship wisdom, which we’ve collected after years of experience helping clients end their marriages.
Sharing Our Relationship Wisdom
Don’t walk into a second marriage blindly without reading our relationship advice:
- Be true to yourself. If you really want to start a family, have more kids, or not have more kids, don’t be dishonest with your fiancé who may want the opposite of you. If you want someone who will be home for dinner by 6:00 pm every night, don’t marry an entrepreneur or a CEO because they’ll be out hustling, making the magic happen.
- Don’t overdo it on social media because it can’t replace your loved one. Healthy relationships take work and when you’re spending more time on Facebook, Instagram, and Snap Chat every day than you are with your partner, the social media can be hazardous to your relationship.
- Get your schedules in sync. To avoid arguments and miscommunication, use synchronized lists and calendar apps. Same with your financial information. If you remarry, synchronize your financial information so both of your can keep track of the money going in and out. The idea is to avoid financial surprises that can lead to marital conflicts.
- As a divorcée, you probably know that sex and intimacy tend to get lost in marriages, especially after children are born. Our advice is to stay (or get) fit and healthy (confidence boosters), and continue making an effort to keep up your appearance for your spouse, even if you feel like wearing sweats and avoiding the shower. As a bonus, you’ll be healthier, reduce your risk of health problems, and increase your self-confidence.
- If you own a home, have children from a previous marriage, are starting a business, or of high-net-worth, sign a prenup! While people may say prenups are “unromantic,” the reality is the rate of divorce is higher for second marriages than it is for first marriages. If you fail to plan, you’ll have to live with Nevada’s default divorce laws. As a community property state, Nevada spouses are entitled to 50 percent of the marital estate and they are both equally liable for each other’s debts, regardless of which spouse incurred them.